TIMING IS EVERYTHING
Do your children see you as the source of their problems? Do they blame you and other authority figures for all their troubles? Here’s one simple technique that, if practiced consistently over time, will change their attitude.
OLD BEHAVIOR — When a child makes a mistake, if you first apply consequences, and only later provide empathy, you produce an angry child who blames you and other authority figures for his or her problems.
NEW BEHAVIOR — When a child makes a mistake, if you first provide empathy, and then you apply consequences, you produce a self-reliant child who takes responsibility for his or her own actions.
The above tip comes from “An Introduction to Love and Logic”, produced by the Love and Logic Institute. For more useful parenting information and a free weekly newsletter, go to www.loveandlogic.com.
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